Why Kids Should Still Be Occasionaly Spanked.
Three days ago some kids (teens) threw some garbage in my gated patio area.When I went outside to (nicely) ask them who threw it all the sudden they can't speak, like thats going to make me go back in my home (they wish). Each and every time I repeated the question and didn't get a response my voice grew louder and I got angrier and angrier, till finally one of them tells me a bald face lie about the person who did it ran around the corner.Now where we live the walls are so thin you can hear someone at the next townhouse break wind let alone run by of which I told him so then this kid retaliates by telling me to lick his a**, the only smart thing this kid did was say it as he was getting into a friends vehicle to leave. I wouldn't have licked his a** but I would have been more than happy to put my foot in his a**. I bet if his parents had ever spanked him as a child he would be a better person.
What really dissapointed me was his friend who just happen to be my next door neighbor could have prevented this whole thing. Had he just stopped his friend and shown some respect for the place where he lives his friends wouldn't be afraid to come back. I just don't understand when I was a kid I was a rebel or more accurately a screw up (hindsight is 20/20) but I never disrespected people's homes and when my friends were around I never let them either. Maybe that's because my Mom would spank me when I was a child for not minding my manners that I grew up with ethics, values, morals or whatever you want to call it. Today kids don't have that or any sense of consequences (for the most part).Either way knowing that kids like that are the future leaders of the world is enough to make me never be able to sleep again for fear of what the world is going to become. Don't get me wrong you don't spank for everything or even all the time you save that for the really big stuff. ex:your kid runs into the street (luckily there are no cars coming) what do you do? You run and get your kid and spank them, then explain why you did it, what could have happened to them, that they are never to do that again, and you remind them that you love them even though you are angry and give them a big hug and kiss. Well thats my opinion anyway and it works for me.
Lesson Learned: Smart A** Disrespectful Teens Can Make Me See Red.
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Thanks it is.
The kids in my neighborhood think they're gangsters (some of them are) and can be very disrespectful so I have to remind them that while most of the neighbors may indeed fear them I do not.Being a single parent I have to be strong and not allow the these kids to do anything to our home. they're like animals sometimes and if I show what they interpret as weakness/fear then they will start breaking into our house and stealing/vandalising my vehicles like they have been known to do to some of our neighbors.
I get so tired though of having to teach these kids manners when it's something their own parents or parent should have instilled in them.I've got my own kids to worry about, (one of which is currently in a juvenile prison and even he knows how to act around other peoples homes!).
As for my little one I can see the mistakes I made with my older son when he was growing up and am doing my best not to make them with him. I think the greatest help has been him being diagnosed with adhd the bonus of that is it was caught early (not late like in my other son) so by the time he is a teen I don't see him getting into the same trouble.
And you damn skippy ::smiles broadly:about not letting them do something that goes against my conscience (although I have been more successful with the little one than the big one).Too bad all parents aren't like you the future would be a more promising brighter place.
I won't give up on my boy no matter how many times he tries to give me a heart attack,anurism,and stroke simultanously.I bet you'd never guess taht I had(have?)a anger mangement prob ::polishes halo:: after a couple years of therapy I don't swing anymore but I'm still working on controlling my mouth.Ironically my children are the only people who haven't experienced my wrath as much as my 16 yr old (I swear lol) wants me to kick his butt.
Oh please excuse the spelling I was in a hurry.
Nope.
Ironically I'm working on a bachelors in social work.I want to be a rape/suicide counselor/crisis counselor.
Yes and the pay is kinda crappy too.
But I feel that every bad thing that ever happened to me (& there were alot)and every stupid choice I ever made has led me to this proffession.So that I not only help others to heal but heal my own soul in the process.You know purge it of all the baggage that's weighing it down and cleanse the splotches of darkness from it. Its probably polka dotted or plaid by now maybe its just different shades of grey.lol
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